A few years ago, I had made the decision to be a single parent, providing for my boys even though it was a huge risk. I was filled with self-doubt and fear, even though I had already achieved some huge goals up to this point.
But here are some of the thoughts I was battling every single day:
- What if I don’t make enough money?
- What if I don’t have enough time for my kids?
- What if my kids get sick?
- Who will be there for me?
- What happens if I have to miss a day of work?
Fearful questions consumed my mind and I was unable to move forward for a while. But then I did a reality check because the truth is that when my son was fighting for his life facing complications from a liver transplant, I faced fear every single day.
But I knew that to be in complete alignment with life and grow to be the person I am and needed to be I had to spread my wings. So, I pulled my big girl pants on and took action in increments. Here’s what I learned:
Deal with your mindset
Your mindset is often what keeps you stuck. Self-doubt, worthiness, not being enough can all be addressed by journaling and questioning the validity of our thoughts. Affirmations are a great way to turn negative thinking to positive statements about ourselves.
Start at the beginning
Taking action can be overwhelming when the sole focus is the big picture. Break it down into small achievable steps. There is no overnight success just putting one foot in front of the other will help you achieve your dream. And yes it can feel too slow, but practicing patience will help you!
Every step counts
You can still be afraid and take action. When I stepped out on my own I did what’s necessary to secure the income I needed to provide for my boys. I took a part-time job while building my business. And every year I’ve been able to celebrate progress.
Taking action increases your confidence
With every step, you take, celebrate it. Tune into how it feels and notice the confidence increase as you get closer to your goal.
I now can provide for my boys and I know I am in complete in alignment with who I am. And while I am no longer single, I still face fear all the time and often refer to this post to help me refocus on what’s important.
You are meant for more and for bigger, and you can get started today.