Sometimes the thought of alone scares us. We seek validation by engaging in conversation with others because we want them to tell us you are enough.
We believe that others can help us not only feel and be enough but almost depend on it because when we are alone we have the hardest time to tell ourselves that we are incredible, worthy and enough.
In today’s world, it is so easy to compare ourselves to others and measure our success that we forget that they too have days of self-doubt. We think they have it all together and they are living in a fairy tale of a life that we can’t see we have our own unique story and skills that we bring into this world.
To shift from comparison mode sometimes we just need to go quiet and within and just spend time with ourselves, alone.
I remember a time in my life where I thought being alone was the worst thing because that meant I was not lovable and not worthy of friends. I since learned that spending time with myself is the best thing I can do for me because I can honor my thoughts and feelings without outside influences.
When I give into my negative thoughts I am really doing myself a disservice and I make a conscious shift to focus on the positive things in my life, including all the amazing things about me. It is so much more freeing knowing the good I shine into this world and creates a shift in my energy and vibration.
Being at peace with my past has probably been the most profound thing I could have done for me. We all have a story or two that left us shattered and hurt, wondering how we can go on with life. But the reality is that we can’t change what has happened, but we can take it and shine our strength despite it all. We can only live right here right now and by choosing to love myself flaws and all, I know that I am enough exactly the way I am.
So, when you struggle to believe you are enough:
- Acknowledge the present moment and how you got to this point
- Write about your thoughts and feelings, keep asking why do I feel this way
- Forgive what must be forgiven and let go
- Know that not everyone has it together all the time – we all have shit days
- It’s okay to look up to people but don’t compare yourself – we are never in the same places as others
- Focus on the positive things going on in your life
- Make a list of all the things that is right about you
The bottom line is there is nothing wrong with you or me. Remembering and taking note of the things that make us awesome and why we love ourselves will show you and me that we are enough in every aspect of our lives.
And it’s time that you embrace your inner rebel and remove whatever is holding you back from what is getting in the way to follow your dreams + goals.
The Rebel Shine Bootcamp is an action-driven course to help you do just that.