A few years ago I attended a workshop and it showed me just how much I am in my head! During the “unwinding” exercise I was stiff. I felt ridiculous between 20 people moving their body to their essence. Unwinding is like dancing but not – it’s more of a form of connecting with your body through movement medication.
I stood there, my left leg stiff and my body swaying because it is all I could muster, even with my eyes closed. Even with everyone’s eyes closed.
I just could not let go. I swayed, my shoulders feeling heavy and that damn sciatic nerve started to bring awareness to my body. I held my breath, literally waiting for this exercise to be over.
One of the presenters came over and guided my breathing and just like the tears began to flow. I still didn’t move very much, so damn stuck.
Why the hell was I so freaking stuck?
I love moving my body.
I also love being in control over my body!
In this room with all the people I connect with that day, I could not (would not) relinquish my control. I continued to sway and received Reiki during this time, and the floodgates opened, again. This time more uncontrolled and heavier.
How much am I living in my head? What a mess I was.
At the end of the day, we were to draw a picture of our experience and, finding my voice in the crowd, I shared how much I am in my head and that I was ready to change that part. Why? Because I knew as soon as I would stop living in my head, I would have the freedom of just being me.
So, what can we do to not live in our heads?
We can dance
Let the vibration control your moves. Allow your body to be guided into the movement that feels good. Endorphins will begin to flow, filling you with positive feelings. The essence of this, however, is to let go of control and just allow your body to move.
Spend time in nature, connect with mother earth and spent some time in solitude. Take your shoes off, spend some time bare feet really grounding you. Have a mountain nearby, go climb it.
Find yourself a quiet space and meditate to quiet your mind and do some breath work. One of my favorite ways to meditate is in the bathtub these days.
This is so good for you in so many ways. Exercise triggers your endorphins that fill you with positive feelings and well it is good for your body. I recently started running again (yay warmer weather) and OMG so good!
Let go of the outcome
You cannot control the world – neither can I – but dammit it would be good, sometimes. Anywho, what you can do is to set your intention, focus on the things you should do and go about your business.
What will you master when you are not living in your head?
You will notice is that your conversations flow easier and that your connections are growing deeper. You will recognize that you are finding your voice and you are feeling confident.
I would love to hear from you on how you get out of your head!