Owning my actions hasn’t been easy because let’s be honest sometimes it is easier to blame others people or systems. I mean, have you ever found yourself why in the heck you just snapped at a friend? Or why you engaged in behavior that led to not feeling so good about you?
The more I began to immerse myself into my self-growth, I began wondering who I was and what I was about. The more I had thoughts like “OMG I did that?” or “I behaved this way?” And it wasn’t pretty.
My initial reaction was to feel bad about my behavior of people pleasing and not being able to use my voice. I had always wished I could speak my truth. The challenge was I wanted to be needed and loved. I hated conflict and avoided it at all costs. Acknowledge your action, own it and then forgive yourself. You can also go ahead and make an amends if you feel the need.
I used to be super co-dependent and the people pleaser from hell. This created space for people to take advantage of me. I jumped when people said jump. I did this because I do genuinely care about people but I had some unhealthy boundaries. I sacrificed myself to such an extent that I struggled to be me. Nothing went the way it was supposed to and I lived in the state of unhappiness.
When I began to awaken to my true self, I sent my ex-husband an apology message for my codependency. It felt right in the moment and I believe in owning my actions, even if it feels uncomfortable.
I am grateful because I can acknowledge now when something doesn’t feel good. I can address it when it needed without fearing about making someone unhappy., because the bottom line is how they feel is on them.
3 things I learned to own up to my actions
- Owning my actions, I am more secure about who I am because what I do and say continues to be authentic.
- I am humbled by knowing I am human and I make mistakes and that I can own them and apologize as needed.
- I respect myself for being aware, acting to make a change within and allow myself to grow from there.
Owning negative action doesn’t feel good. But when we want to live an authentic life owning your actions will allow you to be humble and respect yourself.