When I began to set healthier boundaries, I started to take note of the ways I was unkind to myself. I’ve excused not doing something for myself, time and again just so the rest of the world is happy around me.

I hadn’t made time for listening or watching shows that inspire me or that I enjoy for downtime. I haven’t read many books either for that matter. I kept buying them but didn’t take the time to read them.

I’ve allowed others to judge my work and let it impact my value of self and lived with frustration, which then also caused me unneeded stress. I’ve not always appreciated myself or the work I’ve been putting out. It’s so much easier to make excuses for not doing something.

I’ve not listened to myself to take a break and do fun things like art or a nap. I’ve hidden at home making excuses for not connecting with people. Yes, I am an introvert but people are fun, sometimes.

I’ve beaten myself up when something didn’t turn out the way I envisioned. I’ve not laughed enough because I got so stuck on the how of things rather than trusting the process.

Being kind to yourself is a challenge when you don’t know how because everything and everyone around you hasn’t always been kind to you. Unlearning what you know on how to talk to yourself and take care of yourself, isn’t easy when unkindness is all you’ve ever known. But it’s possible.

Key things I learned that help me be kind to myself

  • Listen to my intuition about situations and people
  • Pay attention to how I talk to myself and reframe as needed
  • Ask myself what brings me joy and then do that

How can you stop being unkind to yourself?

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Petra Monaco

Petra Monaco

The Rebels Den

Petra Monaco is a published author, coach, mom and breaks the status quo for fun. As a foster kid, she knows the challenges and excuses people make as she rewrote her own story and then worked her way through to become a Master's level therapist. However, after watching her son fight for his life due to a rare genetic disorder and three liver transplants, she now coaches creatives and multi-passionates to stop waiting for “one day” and the “perfect moments’. Petra helps you dive deeply into the heart of things in order to discover your next steps, inspires you to set up your own personal framework so you can break free from fear, doubt, and overwhelm so you can start creating the life you want now. Petra uses her personal story to inspire and motivate people into doing the work they need to do to create change because she believes that your excuses are just avoidance. You can have the cake and eat it too if you're willing to show up for it!
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