When I began to set healthier boundaries, I started to take note of the ways I was unkind to myself. I’ve excused not doing something for myself, time and again just so the rest of the world is happy around me.

I hadn’t made time for listening or watching shows that inspire me or that I enjoy for downtime. I haven’t read many books either for that matter. I kept buying them but didn’t take the time to read them.

I’ve allowed others to judge my work and let it impact my value of self and lived with frustration, which then also caused me unneeded stress. I’ve not always appreciated myself or the work I’ve been putting out. It’s so much easier to make excuses for not doing something.

I’ve not listened to myself to take a break and do fun things like art or a nap. I’ve hidden at home making excuses for not connecting with people. Yes, I am an introvert but people are fun, sometimes.

I’ve beaten myself up when something didn’t turn out the way I envisioned. I’ve not laughed enough because I got so stuck on the how of things rather than trusting the process.

Being kind to yourself is a challenge when you don’t know how because everything and everyone around you hasn’t always been kind to you. Unlearning what you know on how to talk to yourself and take care of yourself, isn’t easy when unkindness is all you’ve ever known. But it’s possible.

Key things I learned that help me be kind to myself

  • Listen to my intuition about situations and people
  • Pay attention to how I talk to myself and reframe as needed
  • Ask myself what brings me joy and then do that

How can you stop being unkind to yourself?

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