You know your life isn’t what you want it to be but can you name your struggle. It’s easy to put your head in the sand and just become complacent about what is happening.
It’s easy to just resign and tell yourself this is what your life is supposed to be.
What is not easy is naming the struggle you are experiencing and then showing up to do the work and create the change that you are so desperately seeking.
When you feel like there is no way out and that everything you are doing is pointless, it’s simple enough to just throw in the towel.
But seriously, how do you think life will change if you just go back into your shell because life is too hard?
I remember living from paycheck to paycheck wondering if I would ever get out of the hell I was in order to provide for my kids.
I remember hiding behind a charade because I believed I had to – because I thought I was hard to like or love.
I remember being girl Friday at every single job, hoping and pleading to be noticed and recognized for what I was contributing.
And yet, in the end, I hurt.
I hurt myself by not recognizing what was causing me pain and not acknowledging that I allowed myself to struggle.
It’s so damn easy to be the victim of your story.
In this last year, something became very clear to me. For the longest time, I blamed myself for being a foster kid, like there was something so flawed about me that no one could love me, not even myself. And I also believed that the stigma around foster kids was what was holding me back.
Here’s the thing, it’s not the kid’s fault that the parents are struggling with something that is supposed to come so naturally. And yes, we can totally blame the parents for not owning their shit and do what society believes they should do.
Again we all have a story that isn’t a damn fairy tale. But you have to name it. You have to acknowledge all the reasons within your story to understand where the work needs to happen.
And no one can make you do it.
You either show up for yourself and do the work – or you stay where you are and life will always remain a constant struggle.
I created a free library of resources for you that includes my goal setting workbook, 10 reasons you don’t get things done but also the 10 reasons your are experiencing frustration which I found can help you name your struggle. Check them out here!