Be Vulnerable without Sacrifice
Sharing your most inner self, the real and raw you may be one of the scariest things you’ll do in your life. You will face uncertainty, rejection and resistance.
Being vulnerable can be a scary thing but you don’t have to sacrifice yourself in the process – become vulnerable with the right people who will be behind you or beside you no matter what!
In my own experiences, I had perceived vulnerability as a bad thing because every single time I opened up, my soul took another hit and my heart another crack.
There are events in your life where you learned that protecting yourself is most important to everything else, but that fuels the stories that hinder you to step out of your comfort zone.
But take a look at your life and the people in it, who are the people you can be real and honest with and when were you able to engage in being vulnerable. For me, it was my children who taught me above anything else that you will still be loved, even when you make a mistake.
And I am the first to admit that being vulnerable still feel scary because what if I am being rejected, again. What if I experience negative feelings I don’t know how to cope with, will I have the strength to ask for help?
I believe we all crave the essence of being real in each moment and that we can face rejection and reach out to our support system when we have already tried so much to find our way.
I didn’t know or understand vulnerability until my son had his transplant surgeries. There was so much fear and worry and unknown that my family faced. And it’s through this experiences, my soul busted wide open.
I embraced the moments of being scared and allowed the tears to fall. I listened when the people in my life, nurses included urged me to go home and step away from the hospital, even if it was just for a few hours.
You don’t always understand the decisions you make but when you know deep down that it was the path you need to be walking, you will come out stronger on the other side. Asking for help is not a weakness, facing rejection is part of everyday life and the feelings that come up aren’t actually negative, although they may feel like that.
I believe, feelings have a purpose and that all feelings are inherently good, even if they don’t feel like that during those challenging moments. Feelings give you space for awareness and ultimately for growth.
Being vulnerable is good but in order to not sacrifice yourself, I think it’s important to know who you are being vulnerable with.
Posting every little thing on social media may not be wise, but reaching out to that best friend, now that may be incredibly smart.