The moment you experience frustration and discontentment you are
Sometimes there’s a sense of longing to do something different, to find a new way to live and to be. Your voice is trying to find its way out of its cocoon. This kind of reinvention evolves from the human need to grow and to change. Change comes about because there has to be more than simply existing.
You may be thinking about what benefits you might receive from building a new self. At first, perhaps you just want to be free of a stale, confining, and suffocating way of life, but that might not seem enough to you right then.
Other than liberating yourself from a life with no change and no growth, what other benefits does reinvention offer?
You learn to face fear—and survive!
Fear is the first roadblock to personal change. It’s not that easy to change one’s self and life without giving up something you’ve already got. For example, leaving a job that you’re well-established in for starting a business. Oh, it’s terrifying. There are plenty of times that come up that you will want to quit because you will hear “What if?” so many times. But one thing you can do is rebel through fear.
Happiness goes up, frustration goes down.
Reinvention brings you closer to who you want to be and what you want to do. Living closer to your authentic self removes
Increased stress tolerance.
The moment you choose you and choose to change your life, your stress will increase and it’s kind of unavoidable. However, as you use new tools to help you on your way, you learn to diffuse and dissipate.
You gain a clear understanding of what you want in life, from yourself and others. You also get a lot of practice with honesty. After all, you have to be honest with yourself about things you want to keep going forward.
Sometimes this involves relationships. It’s easy to get stuck in friendships with negative energy-draining people who will deride your changes. If people put down your need to become a better, truer you, evaluate your relationship with a clear eye and consider if they’re worth bringing to the new you. Over the years, I have let go of plenty of people, and it hurts and there’s a part that needs to grieve that loss. But ultimately, surrounding yourself with people that support you on your goals for life outweighs the benefits of staying stuck with people that bring you down.
This sense of greater clarity also often applies to the things you have around you, including your living space and possessions. Don’t be surprised if you find yourself being less worried about material things as you grow and reinvent yourself and focus on experiences instead!
In turn, this is something that leads many people to pair back their lives and declutter their current possessions. Indeed, experts say that clutter is just unmade decisions manifesting as physical things in your life. Happily, as you do yourself a favor by decluttering, you can also contribute to the wellbeing of your wider community, by donating the things that are no longer of use to you to charity. You can even use Donation Pickup services to make the whole process easier. After all, they will come and collect any bulky items of furniture that you are decluttering from your home, meaning you don’t need to hire a van or struggle with any of the heavy lifting, yourself.
You get a bigger toolbox of coping and thriving skills.
Reinvention is all about changing for the better. Getting there takes a lot of new skills. You’ll boost your coping techniques and your tolerance for uncertainty. Side-effects are also feeling empowered and increased self-confidence – and even in the moments, you don’t feel confident others
You learn how to reinvent yourself.
The moment you choose you, you learn quickly that this is going to happen time and again. Sometimes you feel the need to reinvent sooner while at other times it will take years before new change calls you. And since you’ve done it once already, you know you can do it again.
Of course, a huge benefit is a more authentic life that’s fulfilling to live. Just imagine for a moment to just be you.
After all, that’s the first purpose of going through the transformative process. Perhaps more importantly, you learn how to be adaptable in the face of new challenges and that is a life skill that is useful in many ways.
And here’s the thing, it can be really scary to get started because well you don’t really know where to begin. Work with me for a day (or longer) to have the support in your reinvention journey!