How to know what it is you want

How to know what it is you want can be a daunting task when you’re not sure where to begin! And quite often when you ask you are being asked your immediate response is:

I don’t know.

It can be hard to envision what we want because part of us believes that it isn’t even possible to have and so we just tune it out with “I don’t know”.

To uncover what it is you want, look at your life right now. And we do this from working backward by looking at things that have you lying awake at night or put you in a tailspin of emotional chaos.

What in your life sucks that you want to change?
In what area of your life are you feeling frustrated?
What goal have you been putting off that could create the biggest impact?

Now that you have an idea about what you would like to be different, it’s time to look at how you want your life to be. When you can describe the different areas of our life, you acknowledge the areas that need work.

Well, right you don’t but when you are exploring your ideal day, week or year by writing it down, your mind is already working on how to make those changes.

The how is really something that is coming naturally to you and you will only procrastinate on what it is you really want.

Here are some questions to start exploring your wants. Be sure to describe it in detail and really allow all of it to come in. Don’t allow your ego or judgment to hold you back as you start exploring these questions.

Think it’s too far out of reach, write it down anyway.

  1. What would your ideal day, week and year look like?
  2. What do you want your relationships to feel and look like – and break this down by the person?
  3. What do you want your professional life to look like i.e. biz/career?
  4. What do you want your spiritual world to feel and be like?
  5. What do you want your finances to look like?

Now at the end of this, you will have a much clearer picture of all that you want. Your mind will work on how to bring it into your life through ideas, connections and mere thoughts.

Here is something I want to be kind of clear on, however, don’t just focus on the material things because they don’t really help you achieve what it is you want.

If you want more money you may want security and safety.
If you want an amazing relationship with your partner, you may want love.
If you want a certain career or business you may want more freedom.

So, allow your emotions to play a role in the things that you want because that is really what we are after and not all the material things.

And if you are looking for guidance, support and accountability then The Gathering Mastermind is where you will want to be. We are going to meet for three months with alternating group calls and co-working sessions so that you can remove the excuses for making things happen.

About the author

Petra Monaco is an artist, author, and professional problem solver for creatives, rebels, and multi-passionates.

She is here to help you remove frustration from your life and achieve your creative dreams with more ease and confidence.

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