How to be unapologetically you

Being unapologetically you can be a challenge in a world that tells you who you should be! I believe we came into this world as positive people. We can see it throughout our childhood as we take risks with bicycles and roller-skates attempting crazy stunts. Simply because we believed we can!

But then things happen such as negative messages from family members.

  • You can’t do this because …
  • You won’t make it in this profession because …
  • Your dreams are stupid.
  • You’re not smart enough or brave enough.

We come conditioned to accept limiting beliefs and become so afraid to follow our own heart, intuition and just be ourselves.

What if you followed your heart? What would that do to your life?
What if you could just be you, the you that’s been hiding for so long?

Chances are you would feel a bit of freedom in your own skin. And isn’t what we want truly just be ourselves?
Becoming and Being you takes a bit of work because it means that you are accepting yourself 100% flaws and all. Your flaws are uniquely yours and they are everything about you to love.

A few things I learned over time:

Giving yourself a label is limiting you. Not too long ago I called myself a Boundary Strategist – the thing is I still do this work but what I really do is I help transform people’s lives. But I am so much more than that, and so are you! All those labels don’t fit in a nicely put together box – and I am everything but put together. I am however quite passionate, energetic and fun.

Know that people will ALWAYS make assumptions about you. People will stereotype you based on how you dress, how you speak, your spiritual beliefs and even your heritage. I am from Germany and you won’t believe how many people assume that I am racist. I grew up multi-cultural and love learning about different cultures and beliefs.

Those assumptions hold you back because you become fearful of what others will think about you. The sooner you learn to not care about this, the freer you will feel and the more you, you will become.

People will always label and generalize you as being too this or too that. I am either too quiet, too energetic or too out there in my thinking. What comes across as being confident people will interpret as being stubborn. I have some very strong beliefs but I am also willing to hear the other side and get a new perspective. What I do with this is up to me. The same is true for you! You can totally have your own opinion and beliefs, listen to what others have to say and remain with those beliefs – or you can change them. It’s just you are being confident in being unapologetically you.

The crazy thing about just being confidently you – people will hate it and they will try to change you, put you down and challenge you to see how far they can go to break you.

Don’t let them!

Be confident anyway because how other people see or feel about you, well that’s none of your business – it’s theirs and by sticking to being unapologetically you, they are either with you or they are not.

If you are comfortable enough standing up in a room of people to speak up and stand for what you believe in, say you disagree with something or volunteer for the president chamber of commerce position (true story) – you, my friend are my hero!

So, shine your light and always be unapologetically you.

And here’s the thing, sometimes we can’t do it alone. We need guidance and support in the journey of shedding the person we molded ourselves into.

Work with me and let’s shed the layers of conformity!

About the author

Petra Monaco is an artist, author, and professional problem solver for creatives, rebels, and multi-passionates.

She is here to help you remove frustration from your life and achieve your creative dreams with more ease and confidence.

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