Creating your own path isn’t for the faint of harts, because similar to motherhood or parenthood, you have to ask yourself if you want to keep living in a box or if you are with 100% certainty okay with going against the status quo.
I see this phenomenon all the time and you’ve seen it too. Here are some examples:
Orange Is the New Black, 50 Shades of Grey, and yes even with Twilight. And I totally could go on and on about this.
But you know it’s totally okay to not ever read a single Harry Potter book or watch a Lord of the Rings movie.
I think the fear of not being liked because you don’t have a molecule of interest in any of those things, maybe at times greater than we like to admit too. And I get it. I drank because I thought it was cool to do and it helped me fit in, nevermind the fact I didn’t really like myself.
And here is my one single tip for you:
Turn down the noise.
Turn it all off, the people, the TV, the radio, the social media – everything that’s literally interfering in not only stepping who you are but being in that truth of your soul being.
Get the journal or a piece a paper and your pen and start writing what YOUR path looks like.
Write it all out. The work you do, the love you feel, and with whom. The joys you are experiencing, the impact you are having – even just for yourself. The truth you stand for and the emotions that in intent to invoke within you and therefore the people around you.
And as you are getting super clear with who you are, what you care about, and what this life means to you, know that your boundaries will be pushed, obstacles will arise and you’ll want to quit and squish yourself into that little box of conformity.
Stay in the room, feel the feelings, and keep creating your path ahead.
Journal is a path of self-exploration and challenging yourself to write from a place of honesty that’s often quite intimidating.
Exploring the darker side of things isn’t going to be easy so go at your own pace, take a break when you need to but commit to doing the work.