On Being an Introvert

Up until 5ish years go, I didn’t know that being an introvert was a thing. And as I dove into the that personality type, it was like a light bulb went off on why just maybe I was considered being a bit on the weird side (although that’s definitely not the only reason).

Just like that I understood myself just a little bit better and knew that being alone wasn’t about getting hurt by other people or fear of being rejected. Side note: it took a lot of inner healing to overcome my own childhood trauma to be okay with that.

For me being alone in my solitude, doing my thing feels good like standing on top of a mountain and breathing in that fresh air. For years, I felt like I was being crushed in being “on” all the time.

And every time I mentioned that I am an introvert, people always say “You’re not an introvert” and I silently roll my eyes. Introvertedness is not being shy it’s really about being overwhelmed by all the things – mostly people and then mostly all the people in one space such as networking events.

And yet, when I go to a festival or a concert – I am in the zone and get caught up in the moment. Or when I am at my best friends house and we talk and talk for hours about all the things. In those moments I feel energized. But even though I am truly enjoying those times, I return home needing to sleep or read.

People often tend to confuse being introverted with being shy and that’s not the case. An introvert simply prefers to spend time alone in order to recharge their own battery. It’s not that introverts don’t love socializing or being around people but there’s a level of stimuli that tends to keep introverts engaged such as meaningful conversations.

So if you discover that you are an introvert there are some self-care tips I wanted to share with you.

Schedule daily downtime – disconnect from the world and fuel yourself with what will support you best – napping, creating or even watching TV.

Sometimes the best thing you can do is reduce any stimulation and perhaps take a walk in nature or a few minutes in meditation.

It’s also ok to say no and not feel guilty about it. If you’re not up for networking or mingling with people, put your own needs first. You don’t have to give an explanation.

Having boundaries in place will help you manage your own energy and maintain relationships.

About the author

Petra Monaco is an artist, author, and professional problem solver for creatives, rebels, and multi-passionates.

She is here to help you remove frustration from your life and achieve your creative dreams with more ease and confidence.

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