Create a lie and business you love may be the biggest challenge you could take on in your life. There are so many people in this world telling you how to create a life or run your business or how to fit into this world. I’ve been there whether it was to be more feminine or being reminded of being a bit too much at times.
I knew since my teenage years that there was a life waiting for me that would mean less struggle and less frustration but I had to go through quite a few lessons to get there. In my mid-twenties, I knew that I wanted a business.
A business that would allow me to be who I am unapologetically. A business that would support my family. A business that would make a difference in someone’s life.
Today I want to give you a glimpse of how I arrived at a place where I get to do whatever I want, every single day. It’s not been easy that’s for sure. As a person who grew up in foster care, there were always limits placed based on someone else’s view of foster kids or limits I placed upon myself based on someone else’s story. In hindsight, everything I experienced in the foster care and afterward, guided me and moved me in this direction of where I am today
Nothing became more clear about my life and my purpose when the day came and I became a special needs mom to a medically fragile child and I was smacked into the soul foundation that life is too short and that I am in charge of how my life is going to unfold.
In 2007, I started to act instead of just talking about all the things I wanted to do one day.
I started writing and publishing books to share my message.
I went to college to become a therapist to help families at risk.
I started a brick and mortar business supporting artists in the community.
I made art that called me, learning and perfecting my skills.
I worked as a therapist until I was ready for 100% of entrepreneurship.
I created active and passive income streams.
I created a web design and virtual assistant business.
I created coloring books to cement positive feelings from within.
And when I first became a full-time entrepreneur I followed what the experts said, but in truth, it left me frustrated and annoyed because it didn’t feel good. And after a year I had about enough of the bullshit that was my business and decided to get some clarity and what I wanted my life to look and feel like.
And that is where I found my personal mission and secret to make my vision a reality.
I simply wrote it out.
In 3, 5 or 10 years, what did I want my life to look and feel like, and the emphasis is on what I wanted it to feel like.
I decided to no longer feed the shoulds or have to’s and simply just be in each moment and follow the ideas and actions that felt good. Those feelings feel like an energetic party on the insight.
I tuned into how I wanted to serve the creatives and multi-passionate without sacrificing my energy and myself in the process.
And it pains me and often saddens me when I hear someone make excuses for why they can’t do what they want to do and making all the pieces fit for them. You can start now and you can start small. There is no right or wrong way, there’s only YOUR way.
Every year I write a new vision for what I want my next year to look and feel like and based on that visions I develop my goals and the things I want to do during that year. It’s my foundation and literally allows me to “do whatever I want every single day”.
So if you are struggling and feeling frustrated, write out a vision.
Write it out for 10 years, 5 years and then 1 year.
Ask yourself who you want to be, how you want to feel and who is part of your life.
Write about the things you are doing from the time you wake up until you go to bed.
Write about the things you want to achieve and celebrate in your life.
Get into the nitty-gritty of your feelings. How do you want to feel when you do all the things. How will it look like when you follow your passions and live in your purpose?
And if you’re interested in starting your own business, I’ve created this worksheet for you to start exploring the idea of creating a life that feels good, doing work that has you jumping out of bed on most days.
You’re the only one that stands in the way to create a life and business you love.