You don’t have to let life happen to you, you can create it however you want it. You can design the life you really want. It starts with the decision to take control of your life and going after the things that are important to you. It’s time that you let go of fear, learn the things you want to learn and open the doors to opportunities. And you can start today!
#1. You can learn to identify what makes you happy in life.
Get in touch with your strength, your gifts and what brings you joy and also energizes you. When you have this knowledge
Take a moment to assess yourself and your life. Write about what feels really good and what doesn’t and then make a list of your strength, gifts and the activities or people that bring you joy.
#2. You can learn to appreciate failures and mistakes as learning opportunities.
When you design your own life, you learn that all the missteps and obstacles that you face in life are not setbacks or failures. Instead, they are opportunities to learn and grow from. Being happy in life and achieving your goals is a process. It won’t happen all at once, even the Romans didn’t build their empire overnight.
Something that I became super clear on these past few years that sometimes you have to throw Spaghetti on the wall and see what sticks because all that learning and growth to figure out what makes you happy becomes knowledge through the process of trial and error, and keep making and learning from mistakes.
Designing your life allows you the freedom to set your sights on a goal that makes you happy and be at peace with the process of learning and evolving that must happen in order for you to achieve that dream.
#3. You can find a fulfilling career. And then find a new one.
Designing your own life means you don’t have to be stuck in your current job and that you can reach for new aspirations at any point in your existence. Years ago I thought being a CPA was a thing I need to be doing only to realize I am not a cubicle type of person which then let me down the proverbial rabbit hole of “what do I want to be when I grow up”. This means tapping into your imagination and envision different futures for yourself all of which could make you happy and fulfilled. Finding the career that brings you joy and energizes you
This means you pick the one job that fulfills you today, and when that stops being your passion, you know you have the skills and mindset to find the next great opportunity. After my stint in accounting, I ended up working with people who have intellectual disabilities and it was awesome. And then life threw a curveball in my way with my son’s illness and liver transplant and I chose to go after my degree in Counseling. And yes, working as a therapist was definitely fulfilling and filled my passion, at least for a little while.
And today, I am doing what I love and am passionate about in every way – whether it be through coaching and mentoring, creating art, or moonlighting as a virtual assistant.
#4. You can learn to navigate the biggest decision points in your life with ease.
Designing your life teaches you how to assess, make evaluations, envision multiple outcomes, and select among many different choices.
These are all essential life skills because you’ll be making tough decisions along the way. Once you feel confident that your process works and is bringing you happiness, you’ll start to see many ways these skills are transferable to all the decision-making points in your life.
My own biggest challenge was in embracing my multi passions and realizing that I get easily bored doing the same thing over and over again and that I thrive on variety and the ability to use all of my skills – maybe not every day but definitely most of the time.
#5. You can imagine multiple futures for yourself, then decide which to pursue.
You see that several different options could bring you joy, and you are reminded that there is not one right future or path for you. Knowing this is freeing, allowing you to change directions in the future or start again when you find your passion and joy waning.