When you think about the person that is living their dream, what comes to mind? They must have it easy or it was handed to them is often at the top of the list, but would it surprise you to know that those are not the most important characteristics? 

In fact, they are living their dream after perhaps years or struggle, but there’s one thing that is absolutely critical that helped them get there, and you can’t even see it. 

Mindset. 

Mindset Matters. It’s true. In everything you do, whether in business or in life, your mindset is the determining factor when it comes to your success. Your own plans are no different. Without the right mindset, you will forever be attracting experiences and people that are less than ideal when it comes to choosing your own path of happiness.

So before you can realize your dreams of living according to your own rules, you have to do some internal work. You have to make some changes to your own mindset, to be more in line with what you are watching other people do. Mindset matters more than you think.

Mindset Matters: Getting Inside the Head of People living their dream

Changing Your Attitude

One thing they have in common is a good attitude. Think about it; you’ll never see them complaining about how the kids are sick, “again!” or that the cable repair guy is 40 minutes late, or even that the car blew a tire. 

Instead, you see their expressions of gratitude in everything. If the kids are sick, they’re grateful to be able to be there for them. If the cable guy is late, they’re grateful to have 40 extra minutes to read a book instead of watch television. And if the car died in the middle of running a week’s worth of errands, they’re happy to have found a mechanic who does great work at a reasonable price. 

If you find yourself complaining—even in your head—turn your attitude around. There’s nearly always something to be grateful for, even in the worst situations. And when you can rethink and revise your attitude for the better, you’ll not only be happier, but you’ll attract a better audience, too. 

Growing Your Confidence

Here’s something else they have in common: confidence. They believe in what they do. They believe in their ability to live a life according to their own terms. They are filled with the knowledge that they are in charge of their own life and in control of steering it into the direction of their own choosing.

It’s not cocky or arrogant, it’s just confidence. And if you don’t have it yet, you can take steps to increase it. 

Start by asking yourself, in any new or uncomfortable situation, “What’s the worst that could happen?” Of those worst-case scenarios, resolve what you have control over, and let the rest go. So if you’ve agreed to write a book, and your fear is that no one will read it, knowing you have something to say that could improve someone’s live can and will increase your own confidence.

Next, get inside the head of someone who is confident in what you’re about to do. Write that book as if you’ve been doing this for years, and not only will you feel more confident, but you’ll be more confident. You can use the “as if” attitude in everything. Whenever you feel your confidence failing, just remember to act as if you’ve done this successfully hundreds of times. 

Just like how the person you’re talking to on the phone can hear a smile in your voice, the people around you can sense your mindset. Your mindset matters. And if it’s not up to the standards of the people you’re watching living a life according to their own rules, you’ll struggle to do the same. Work on your attitude and confidence levels, and watch your income soar.